Some of your married friends would explain countless reasons why you shouldn’t live with your in-laws. Maybe because they experienced the pros and cons of it, or they don’t want you to share what they had experienced.
Your in-laws may be great people, but living with them may not be good. You may be able to save money by living with them, but you might end up having to pay a higher price in the long run.
The marriage vows are to each other, not including their parents! The highest priority should be the husband or the wife only.
From what I have observed and personal experience when a couple lives with either of their parents, this becomes difficult as parents still seem to expect their child to be subservient to them. I have observed marriages breakdown because parents-in-law interfere. Parents tend to interfere with couples’ decisions, giving advice that wasn’t asked for, interrupting private conversations, and even making unreasonable requests. When people are living together, it creates conflicts, and it makes relationships worse.
These issues can arise even if the couple is not living in the same house as their parents. It can happen if they live in the same area.
Here are four reasons why you should not live together with your in-laws.
As a young couple, we need some privacy, and minor problems can be solved better when the couple lives alone and separately. If you are living with them, you will have a hard time telling them to give you time alone because it is their home you are living in. All couples also should be allowed to have their time together.
Living far makes the relationships better. The couple needs to know how to manage their lives together, learning to know and understand each other.
No matter how awesomely cool they are, keeping a safe distance when it comes to in-laws is always better. Before marriage, you might be a lovely girlfriend who is a pleasure to have around. But a few months into the wedding, you might become the lazy daughter-in-law who refuses to clean up or the wife who can’t cook. Your beautiful relationship would then go down the drain.
Acting like mama’s boy or daddy’s little girl will not suit your relationship with your spouse. Living in your in-laws’ house gives them a sense of authority over you. After all, it is their house. So it has to be their rules. Living with them won’t give you total freedom. You would have to tiptoe around them to be sure that you won’t be offending any sensibilities.
As first-time parents, your in-laws will see you as neophytes in the avenue of parenting. They won’t be able to resist butting in and giving even when you don’t want it. All of a sudden, you may find that they are the ones raising your child instead of you.